Indian Marriage: What You Need to Know

Indian marriages are a mix of age‑old rituals and today’s realities. Whether you’re attending a ceremony, planning your own, or just curious, this guide gives you the basics you’ll actually use.

Key customs you’ll see

Most Indian weddings start with a pre‑wedding ceremony like the Roka or Engagement. Families exchange gifts and make promises. The big day usually has a Jaimala (garland exchange), a Varmala, and a pheras where the couple walks around a fire seven times. Each step has a clear purpose – sealing love, family bonds, and blessings.

Dress matters a lot. Guests wear bright traditional wear: sarees for women, kurta‑pyjamas or sherwanis for men. If you’re unsure, ask the host what’s expected. It’s better to be slightly overdressed than too casual.

Etiquette tips that actually help

Gifts: Bring something useful and respectful. Cash in a decorative envelope is common, but you can also choose a silver item or a set of home goods. Avoid gifting knives or anything that could be seen as a bad omen.

Dowry: The legal system discourages dowry, yet the practice still shows up in some places. Know that the law makes it illegal to demand or give dowry, and many families now prefer pure gift‑giving. If you’re asked for dowry, it’s okay to politely decline and explain your stance.

Honeymoon costs: Traditionally, the groom’s family pays, but many couples today split the bill or use their own savings. It’s becoming normal to discuss budgets openly before the wedding.

What not to do: Don’t wear white (it’s a mourning color), avoid stepping on anyone’s feet, and steer clear of political or religious debates at the venue. Also, never bring your own food unless the host says it’s okay; the meals are part of the celebration.

Finally, be ready for the food. Indian weddings serve a flood of dishes – from spicy curries to sweet desserts. Eat what you can, compliment the cooks, and don’t worry if you can’t finish everything.

With these pointers, you’ll move through any Indian marriage ceremony feeling confident and respectful. Enjoy the colors, the music, and the love that ties families together.