Wedding Traditions: What Every Guest Should Know

Indian weddings are a mix of color, music, and age‑old rituals. If you’ve been invited, you probably wonder what to expect, what to bring, and what to avoid. This guide breaks down the most common traditions so you can join the celebration without any awkward moments.

Gift Etiquette and What to Bring

First things first – the gift. Most families appreciate cash in a decorative envelope, known as a shagun. If you prefer a physical present, think of items that are useful for a new household: crockery, silverware, or a set of towels. Avoid giving something in black or white, as those colors are linked to mourning. And remember, it’s polite to hand the envelope to the designated family member rather than the bride or groom directly.

Dowry, Honeymoon, and Modern Shifts

Traditionally, dowry was a way for the bride’s family to support the couple’s future. Today, many families skip dowry altogether, focusing instead on shared expenses. When it comes to the honeymoon, the responsibility often falls on the groom’s side, but modern couples are splitting the cost or even funding it themselves. If you’re asked about money, answer honestly – most families now value transparency over old expectations.

Other common customs include the mangalsutra ceremony, where the groom ties a sacred necklace around the bride’s neck, and the baraat, the groom’s lively procession to the venue. Guests usually greet the couple with a warm "Congratulations" and a smile, then join in dancing to folk songs or Bollywood hits.

One thing to watch out for is the dress code. Bright colors are welcome, but avoid white (reserved for funerals) and all‑black outfits. If the invitation says "traditional attire," a silk saree or a kurta is a safe bet.Finally, be mindful of the schedule. Indian weddings can stretch over several days, with events like the mehndi (henna night) and the saat phere" (seven vows). Arriving on time shows respect, but don’t stress if a ceremony runs a bit late – the flow is part of the charm.